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Neurodiversity criticism: A view from the inside

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This blog has been written for the Resilience and Wellbeing Network by Dr Jacqui Wilmshurst, chartered psychologist and workplace wellbeing specialist. 

It’s not all about male computer nerds who don’t know how to speak to other humans. It’s about recognising diversity and being inclusive. Given that estimates put autistic people at just over 1% of the population and neurodivergent people as a whole at over 10%1, the connections to resilience and wellbeing at work are obvious.

Neurodiversity is a phenomenon whose time has come and with it some neurodiversity criticism. Even a quick search on the internet will bring up numerous articles about the rise in diagnoses for adult women (as well for young girls)2,3,4 and about the importance in recognising strengths and moving from an approach that seeks mainly to accommodate a disability, to one that promotes true understanding and celebration of difference5,6,7.

I am especially tuned into this because alongside being a psychologist specialising in workplace resilience and wellbeing, I am also autistic.

For me, it is only a disability when I am not able to find or create environments that are right for me.

When I asked him what he is seeing in the field of neurodiversity this year, Ed Thompson (Director of specialist neurodiversity training consultancy Uptimize) said this: “We are seeing more and more organisations take active steps towards greater neurodiversity inclusion. This is being driven by real talent needs, the recognition that neurodivergent people represent valuable talent that has often been overlooked, and the positive examples of some of the pioneering companies in this area such as Microsoft.”

So here’s something personal on this topic – in the hope that you will find it enlightening and useful.

One note of caution: “If you’ve met one autistic person, you’ve met one autistic person” (Stephen Shore). The caution is important, but it doesn’t mean that you can’t use my experiences to inform your approach.

For those of you who may not know much about autism, there are at least some relative constants. In order to qualify for a diagnosis, each of our unique traits is categorised as follows:

  1. Sensory processing
  2. Organisational skills (also known as ‘executive function’ and shared often with dyslexic people)
  3. Social communication.

Whilst I’m hopeless at organising certain things (like the structure of this blog – luckily I have a fantastic editor on hand) and I have sensory issues (sustained exposure to bright lights and certain noises cause central nervous system symptoms), the focus I am choosing for this blog is social communication.

This is because there has been a substantial focus recently on how to accommodate sensory and executive function issues8,9,10 and relatively little coverage of social communication issues in the workplace.

Social communication issues have personally caused me more stress and anxiety than the others and in many ways are seen as trickier to manage and make adjustments for.

The most common phrase I have had said to me in exasperation (both kindly and otherwise):

“Can’t you just…?”

This is followed by:

“…play the game?”

“…pick your battles?”

“…tell people what they want to hear?”

“…let the other person be right sometimes, even if they’re not?”

“…read the signals when someone’s feeling tired/ annoyed/ overwhelmed?”

No, I can’t! Well, I can, so long as I’m not tired, overwhelmed or stressed myself.

This is because to compensate I have developed a high level of what is known as ‘cognitive empathy’. My analysis and calculations are mostly conscious and deliberate rather than unconscious and intuitive. Interestingly, I have no problem reading underlying moods and energy and can often pick up what is really going on for someone (including when they’d rather I didn’t). What I don’t read are intentional communications that are either non-verbal or ambiguous/nuanced. I need clear, honest and direct communication. Without it I flounder. It is exactly what I offer others, and it often bemuses me to hear that I was supposed to be more ambiguous and dishonest in order not to attract criticism and irritation (if not outright anger).

Such issues are great for building adaptability and resilience though. Without a formal diagnosis, I had already formed a large number of workarounds for issues that I didn’t even know everyone else didn’t have. They have been pretty effective, but what they didn’t do was help with the internal anxiety and exhaustion that goes with this much effort11, not to mention not knowing when I’ve ‘got it wrong’, unless I ask or someone tells me in frustration. This can often bring about another “Can’t you just…”, which is: “…stop being so sensitive?” I challenge anyone who works this hard to be sociable and effective working with others, whilst also lacking the intuitive ability to read social signals (and often being dazzled by bright lights, too much noise and too many people), not to be always waiting for judgement or criticism.

Related to this, there can also be a tendency when asked to share professional knowledge to get so enthused that I don’t know when to stop – not least given that one of my strengths is how much information I can absorb and retain on a given subject. I know that I share this with Chris Packham, who has Michaela Strachan on hand to give him a subtle nudge when he does it on live TV (inside information)! This can also lead to intense social anxiety, usually retrospectively, if I don’t get support or feedback.

For all these reasons, there can be the assumption (seen towards the end of Chris Packham’s wonderful documentary Asperger’s and Me12) that it’s best if people on the autism spectrum are left to work on their own in a dark, quiet room. Except that this doesn’t work for a sociable, empathic, autistic woman, one of whose ‘special interests’ is psychology and facilitating health and development!

So what would I ask for if I were back in employment (rather than self-employed), to help ease the burden and allow me to focus on my many strengths?

Positive additional adjustments

  1. Coaching or mentoring, ideally with someone who understands the specific challenges I face. For example, rather than avoiding social interaction, I have tended towards overenthusiasm, lack of boundaries and difficulty discerning other people’s intentions. In the absence of clarity, rather than trusting no-one, I’ve had a tendency to trust everyone. This is a sure path to disappointment and at times, exploitation.
  2. Having a workplace ‘buddy’; either in meetings or, if that’s not possible, then to talk to before and after (like Michaela to Chris Packham). Also, the opportunity to have a reflective learning conversation with my manager about any concerns I have relating to a given interaction, without judgement.

Removal of barriers

  1. Being free to educate others about how it is for me, rather than to be at the end of assumptions and stigma. For example, I want to be believed that although I am, for the most part, an articulate and apparently confident verbal communicator, this does not necessarily reflect what is going on for me on the inside. After social interaction, especially with multiple people and/or people I don’t know well, I need recovery time alone and in a quiet place.

All these kinds of support reduce neurodiversity criticism, second-guessing, over-analysis and anxiety and leave me with valuable resources intact.

In my case; cognitive abilities that include a rapid uptake and synthesis of new information, a very good memory and recall for the same, highly associative thinking that contributes to creative problem solving and a fine eye and ear for detail. I also have a large well of passion, energy and enthusiasm that, in the wrong environment, gets lost to the toil of trying to appear ‘normal’ and hoping desperately that no-one will notice that I’m not.

On the plus side, as an antidote to the people who have not been kind, my diagnosis and subsequent selective disclosure has also led me to discover that lots of people already knew I wasn’t ‘normal’ and already thought it was wonderful.

There is so much more that I could say on this but I promised this would be a reasonably short blog (although I still say why to use 1,000 words when 10,000 would do…). Thankfully I only have to be one in a growing number of autistic adults now speaking up about our neurodiversity criticism and what we need in order to thrive. I’ve added a little of my voice here and have included a reading list at the end if you find yourself wanting to hear from some of the others.

Some motivational words from Ed Thompson to finish: “There’s been a big change in the last five to 10 years, where diversity as a whole has gone from a CSR initiative to a business imperative.13

Let’s keep that momentum going…

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Neurodiversity and Neurodiversity Criticism References

  1. https://www.cipd.co.uk/knowledge/fundamentals/relations/diversity/neurodiversity-work
  2. https://theconversation.com/changing-the-face-of-autism-here-come-the-girls-57000
  3. https://www.independent.co.uk/voices/autism-awareness-day-women-girls-autistic-discrimination-a8283691.html?amp
  4. https://www.independent.co.uk/life-style/health-and-families/autism-diagnosis-45-year-old-woman-laura-james-social-interaction-new-book-a7669676.html
  5. hrmagazine.co.uk/article-details/why-firms-are-embracing-neurodiversity
  6. https://www.eurekalert.org/pub_releases/2011-04/uom-nre032811.php
  7. https://www.wired.com/2013/05/silicon-valley-coders-and-autism-and-asperbergers-maybe-its-a-new-kind-of-design-thinking/
  8. https://www.telegraph.co.uk/business/autism-in-workplace/thinking-differently/
  9. https://www.telegraph.co.uk/business/autism-in-workplace/neurodivergent-employees/?WT.mc_id=tmg_share_li
  10. https://www.telegraph.co.uk/business/autism-in-workplace/
  11. https://www.spectrumnews.org/features/deep-dive/costs-camouflaging-autism/?fbclid=IwAR0kZ7hcVFoRb3aYV5m9AJWRqGBual4fF15rofJzGugImInYybiCkRP_EP4&cn-reloaded=1
  12. https://vimeo.com/252876361
  13. https://discover.dhl.com/business/productivity/neurodiversity-at-work

Further Reading on neurodiversity criticism:



Neurodiversity not on the agenda for 9 out of 10 UK organisations